Divorce and Family Law News: Parenting Options Post-Divorce


After the divorce dust settles, parenting often remains a contentious topic. One parent maintains a calendar outlining each day by the hour, while the other parent lives life in the moment. Clearly, these opposite approaches to life and child-rearing lead to post-divorce acrimony. Luckily for divorced parents, the traditional co-parenting method is not the only option.

what is Co-Parenting for divorced parents?

Co-parenting is the experience of two divorced people raising children as single parents in separate households. Successful co-parenting requires civil, open communication between former spouses. This approach also relies heavily on both parties focusing on the wellbeing of their children and setting aside any issues they have with the other. Together, these parents develop rules and expectations so their children have similar experiences at both homes and engage in frequent communication about their children’s wants, needs, and experiences.

what is Parallel Parenting for divorced parents?

Parallel parenting involves minimal communication between two former spouses. The approach is transactional in nature and exclusively focused on the children. The divorced parents make daily decisions for the children without input from the other. On important matters such as medical issues, these parents communicate through a mutually pre-agreed communication method. This communication is often through e-mail or a parenting app where each communication is logged with date and time stamps. Due to the minimization of regular contact, parallel parenting reduces stress and works to create stable environments for children.

what is The Best type of parenting post-divorce?

While there is not a best type of post-divorce parenting for all families, all families should consider an approach that works best for their children. The default co-parenting method or the alternative parallel parenting work well for some, while a hybrid approach works better for others. Parenting plans should include details such as communication so new, sustainable families become the reality rather than the exception. The divorce dust sometimes never settles, but parents must make life work for their children.

For additional information and resources, check out our Iowa Child Custody Guide.

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Katelyn Kurt, law clerk with Whitfield & Eddy Law, provided research for this month’s newsletter with Tyler.


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